Balance of Security and Freedom

When we discuss the success and failure, we must define it is different from winning and losing. Winning and losing is a social concept, which is concerned about the result and always judged by other people or the public. Success and failure is a spiritual concept, which is concern about the process and always judged by the faith and value yourself.If you don't have a faith or standard of life, you would never feel successful.So success is not decided by how much money you have, how happy you are and how many people admire you or you love. It is decided by whether you insist on your faith and belief. In the TED talk by Elizabeth Gilbert, keeping on writing is her success.If you still can not identify the difference between success and winning, you can go to another TED talk by John wooden.The link is as follows:https://www.ted.com/talks/john_wooden_on_the_difference_between_winning_and_success?language=en

In the TED talk by Elizabeth Gilbert,she used a word "home" to describe her success standard but didn't give us essence of success. In my opinion, the essence of success in psychological layer is the unity of opposites between security and freedom. The feeling of security includes material security and spiritual security. Material security is the basis of our human activity. As a man, the material security is the bread. Without the basic material, success is like a tree without water and sunshine.  Spiritual security is the basis of our social activity.As a man, we have the spiritual security by being loved and admitted. The feeling of freedom is the gift of a man. It is the source to drive us to keep creating. In our real life, these two feelings are always contradiction. For example, nowadays in china, there are more than 200milion people who work in the places thousands kilometres away from home to have a better life but lose the freedom to take care their families. Also we have many examples on the people lose the security of life for freedom. The success of these people is based on balancing the feeling of security and freedom. In a conclusion, success is a dynamic process to balance the unity of security and freedom you need. You will never get failure until you give up to adapt the balance.

I want to recommend another TED talk about success.https://www.ted.com/talks/alain_de_botton_a_kinder_gentler_philosophy_of_success